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Offline tweedfingers

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Friends: Foreign and Korean
« on: January 26, 2012, 12:23:51 pm »
Hey folks.
Just curious,
from which group do you have more of and why?

I've met some great people on both sides, and from each I'll always have someone to keep in touch with, but I just don't have time for everyone I've gotten to know.

I just signed up for another year here and it really feels as though I should lean in one direction or another. Forgive me if it sounds a little divisive. Your thoughts are appreciated!


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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #1 on: January 26, 2012, 12:58:22 pm »
Only foriegn and I've been here 7.5 yrs.

The reasons?

I find K friends ot be overbearing, overly emotional and intelectually young for their age as well as their outlooks on life, sense of humour and expectations of friendships to just not gel with mine.

Nothing personal, just doesn't work out for me.
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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #2 on: January 26, 2012, 01:38:30 pm »
Mostly foreign at the moment. But I try to make new Korean friends every chance I can get.

I think total immersion in a culture would include having mostly Korean friends.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #3 on: January 26, 2012, 04:52:13 pm »
Mostly korean, because I'm korean.
I had foreign friends when I lived in england 19years ago, but now just a few.
I miss my mates but I don't know the address OTL

I've joined waygook because I want to meet new foreign friends and want to know about how they think about korea.....want to help foreigners.
And also the reason why I joined this site cause my english is getting bad every year.....I want to prevent that..... I don't have chance to speak english or don't need to speak english at work.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #4 on: January 26, 2012, 06:18:23 pm »
Mostly korean, because I'm korean.
I had foreign friends when I lived in england 19years ago, but now just a few.
I miss my mates but I don't know the address OTL

I've joined waygook because I want to meet new foreign friends and want to know about how they think about korea.....want to help foreigners.
And also the reason why I joined this site cause my english is getting bad every year.....I want to prevent that..... I don't have chance to speak english or don't need to speak english at work.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #5 on: January 26, 2012, 07:07:32 pm »
Mostly foreign (I think that's pretty normal, though, the thread seems a bit pointless haha...) but I do have a few great Korean friends.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #6 on: January 26, 2012, 07:37:04 pm »
Mostly Chinese college students, oddly enough.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #7 on: January 26, 2012, 08:07:34 pm »
Mostly foreign (I think that's pretty normal, though, the thread seems a bit pointless haha...) but I do have a few great Korean friends.

Why you'd bother to waste time pointing out the pointless (see the point?) rather than offering something more constructive seems well... I think you already said it. 

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #8 on: January 26, 2012, 08:11:54 pm »
My closest friends are mostly other foreigners also teaching at the public schools in my town.  There's a lot to bond over in that experience and we've all more or less hit it off really easily.  We also have some Korean friends we enjoy hanging out with and they're very nice, but it's a different type of friendship that takes more effort, in my experience.  To be honest, after a week of working with my all-Korean staff at school I'm more than ready for some 'waygook time,' where everyone's sense of humor and cultural references and life experiences are on somewhat similar pages.  I enjoy my Korean friends but feel more relaxed and able to "be myself" around my foreign ones.  Also, one of the best parts about Korea is that while it's easy to bond with other English teachers, we're all from very different places ourselves, and it's awesome that I now have friends from South Africa and the UK and Canada and New Zealand, and have been able to learn a lot about those places.

But having said that, Koreans usually make wonderful friends--they tend to be generous to a fault, kind, considerate and attentive, and very keen on the whole "cultural exchange" factor in the friendship.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #9 on: January 26, 2012, 08:23:36 pm »
I have mostly international friends, but also have some Korean friends as well. (Mostly former uni. students and people from church.)
Many of my Korean male friends over 32 tend to enjoy their bacon & soju, whereas some of the younger ones are open to eating other kinds of food.
I agree that there is much immaturity that tends to go on here, but cést la vie!!  :D

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #10 on: January 26, 2012, 08:54:26 pm »
i'd say about half and half.

the longer i stay the more it moves over to the korean side. most of my good friends that i met in my first year have left for home. i keep in touch often with the ones that are still here, but i rarely get past the drinking acquaintance stage with new people i've met over the last year or so. these days most of my foreigner friends are classmates.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #11 on: January 26, 2012, 09:38:25 pm »
Half and half.  I'm with Furtakk.  My first year, 95% Foreign, 5% Korean.  2nd year, 65% Foreign, 35% Korean.  3rd year 25% Foreign, 75% Korean.

I have serious "Saying goodbye" issues.  So after making solid friendships after the 1st year, just to see them go away in 10 months, caused me to shy away from the foreigner crowd.  Honesty.  I've more Korean friends because I know I won't have to say goodbye, so I'm a lot tighter with my K friends.  Maybe it's that whole, I don't want to be hurt again, so I'll be the heartbreaker instead deal...  Maybe it's also because I don't want people to make a fuss about me leaving soon.  Don't really know.
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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #12 on: January 26, 2012, 09:40:24 pm »
More Korean than Non-Korean for me.

(Although they are mostly in Soeul and I find myself in Ulsan...)

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #13 on: January 26, 2012, 09:44:32 pm »
Being the sad sod that hasn't spoken to a native english speaker for 6 years, I will say that I have no  friends.

I correct myself, I saw a young person at the supermarket last week and I went up and said hello. My lack of adult conversational skills made me look really thick.

Anyway, my closest are all family( yes I hang out with my sons-in-law, wife, and daughters), the rest are good or casual acquaintences.

Like DWAEDGIMORIGUKBAP, I find it difficult to cement decent friendships with Koreans, other than family. Casual is good for me.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #14 on: January 27, 2012, 09:27:51 pm »
Probably about half and half for me, leaning a bit more to the Korean side actually.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #15 on: January 28, 2012, 09:33:52 am »
Mostly foreign, but I have befriended mainly uni teachers with Korean wives or husbands, so they stick around. I have some close Korean friends, but two of them left in the past year to work/study abroad.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #16 on: January 28, 2012, 09:51:08 pm »
About half and half here, too.

My Korean friends are extremely helpful in explaining history, culture, and social stuff to me and put up with my awkward ineptitude when dealing with Korean superiors. They have taken to waving and bowing at the same time to tease me. They're really useful in making my view of back home less nationalistic [I see the irony, don't worry] and less imperialistic.

My foreign friends are welcomed outlets to the stresses of Korea that aren't easily discussed with Koreans. They can get annoying, though, when we have to have the inevitable way-too-personal discussions of politics (or sexuality, or religion, or fitness, or law, or... any of the personal things people like to pretend we don't talk about).

I find the balance helps my personality and socialization a bit more. The strictly foreigners crowd seems too readily easy to be anti-Korean and the Korean-only crowd seems to be overly critical of NETs. Reminds me of many other kinds of ignorance -- you have your stereotypes about x all lined up until you actually meet an x.
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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #17 on: February 02, 2012, 12:11:21 pm »
For me it's about half and half; I strike a pretty decent balance between seeing foreigner friends and meeting up with Korean friends.
I hang with my fellow waygooks for de-stressing, and usually meet my Korean friends when I want to eat well or do a language exchange meeting. Both groups are also great for just hanging out with, drinking (lots on both sides, haha) and playing card games with.

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #18 on: February 03, 2012, 10:53:07 am »
I'm surprised nobody has mentioned gyopos (Korean-Americans, Korean-Canadians, etc).  If I didn't have Korean-American friends I probably would have left after my first year.  You get the best of both worlds.  They understand your language and your culture.  Also, they usually know better spots to hang out.  It's so much easier when they order food, plan a trip, get directions, etc. 

Something else is that they understand both sides so you can tell them about your culture clash stories and they totally get it. 

I have more gyopo friends than anything else.  I have foreigner friends because of baseball teams, teacher workshops, or who are former coworkers.  I generally find that the majority of them are pub frequenters and that's not my scene so I usually meet them less often or just for sports. 

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Re: Friends: Foreign and Korean
« Reply #19 on: February 03, 2012, 12:24:41 pm »
Half and half.  I'm with Furtakk.  My first year, 95% Foreign, 5% Korean.  2nd year, 65% Foreign, 35% Korean.  3rd year 25% Foreign, 75% Korean.

This is the same for me. After the first year when I cleaned out my phonebook right after the going away parties, it meant that my phone was suddenly half English and half Korean names. The pattern just continued as the year went on, as I would meet new foreigners, and my Korean friends would introduce me to their other Korean friends. (Speaking some of the language has also made some of the people in the Korean groups latch onto me.)
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