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Frozencat99:
Because being at school is solely the reason for bullying.  ::)

Rusty Shackleford:

--- Quote from: Frozencat99 on April 26, 2012, 12:54:02 PM ---Because being at school is solely the reason for bullying.  ::)

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Of course not, but cramming people together like that (especially against their will) certainly facilitates it.

Cereal:
People bully because they can get away with it. Once a bully gets seriously tuned up, generally their bullying days are history. That has been my experience anyway.

peasgoodnonsuch:
It's horrible that this article put the entire weight onto the education system. That alone speaks volumes about how misplaced Koreans' values are when it comes to education. That said, school's have the opportunity and perhaps also the onus to do the best they can to change this situation.

The problem is, most of the time bullies have parents that are grown-up bullies. You can't get any help from parents that don't see or refuse to believe there's a real problem. Ultimately, there needs to be a change of heart in both parents and in children. Increases in punishment will only provide band-aid solutions. 

Perhaps schools can shift their focus from pure provision of education to being a community catalyst and social service provider. To some degree this is already happening. Also, keep in mind that a lot of the bullies are coming from broken or poor homes with little to no parental support. We are in a place of such brokenness in our society that we can no longer keep the functions of our various institutions separate. Home, school and state have to work in unison or we're going to end up with a bunch of ADHD cracked pot kids that have violent tendencies.

I would also caution anyone from putting the blame on the mothers. It is not fair for them to carry the entire burden of raising their children, and if men can focus on their careers then women should have that right as well. It is vital for the Korean government and for Korean companies to recognize that both parents need to be involved in raising the children, not just the women. They need to reform working hours, after-work culture, and parenting benefits such as maternity leave and company childcare.

Rusty, I understand what you mean, I think. It would be great if more alternative forms of school were available and accepted by universities and employers. Korea (and America) needs more charter schools, skill-focused schools, and places for private instruction. In the past most students were instructed in small groups or at home by a parent or with a privately hired tutor. In this way teachers and students could work in a more natural and child-centered manner. Since I don't think de-institutionalizing public education is a good idea, it would be nice to see the institution bring back more of the personalized instruction people of the past benefited from.

Hope that all doesn't make me sound too crazy! It's not a theory I've spent much time developing in my head...

wrinklebump:

--- Quote from: Cereal on April 26, 2012, 01:46:01 PM ---People bully because they can get away with it. Once a bully gets seriously tuned up, generally their bullying days are history. That has been my experience anyway.

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that was also my experience as a youth, but bullying here is very much a group-affair. what we have on our hands isn't the case of the dude with the beach-sized forehead putting pipsqueaks in headlocks. iljin operate in what most people would term 'gangs,' though that seems to be a dirty word here

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