Topic: Is marrying a Korean difficult? Read 8875 times

Mark2090 · « **on:** November 29, 2020, 04:05:36 am »

Is marrying a Korean difficult?
THANKS all for your responses

stoat · « **Reply #1 on:** November 29, 2020, 01:30:39 pm »

There may be some cultural clashes. Where are you from? that might make a difference.

thunderlips · « **Reply #2 on:** November 29, 2020, 04:18:39 pm »

Marrying is quite easy, staying together can be the tricky bit. Not for me but from others Ive heard.

oglop · « **Reply #3 on:** November 29, 2020, 05:46:55 pm »

Quote from: thunderlips on November 29, 2020, 04:18:39 pm

Marrying is quite easy, staying together can be the tricky bit. Not for me but from others Ive heard.

Really? What kind of problems?

thunderlips · « **Reply #4 on:** November 30, 2020, 07:36:02 am »

Quote from: oglop on November 29, 2020, 05:46:55 pm

Really? What kind of problems?

I've heard plenty of stories. Basically people, usually the women, feeling family pressure to get married and have kids. So they find some sucker and get hitched, realize marriage can be difficult and then get a divorce. It's not a problem specific to Korea, but it seems the societal pressure is more pronounced.

https://www.scmp.com/week-asia/society/article/3025102/more-south-korean-women-are-filing-divorce-taking-comfort

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Statistics show an increase in divorce filings just after the holidays when people spend time with their extended families

nightninja · « **Reply #5 on:** November 30, 2020, 07:47:11 am »

Quote from: oglop on November 29, 2020, 05:46:55 pm

Really? What kind of problems?

I have stories....although still married....

SPQR · « **Reply #6 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:06:51 am »

Okay, here is MES advice. Dating them is great. Marrying them is easy.
Living with them is hell.

hangook77 · « **Reply #7 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:17:20 am »

Quote from: SPQR on November 30, 2020, 09:06:51 am

Okay, here is MES advice. Dating them is great. Marrying them is easy.
Living with them is hell.

A good marriage needs a spacious home so you can go into another room or space and get away from each other. Sometimes some privacy is great.

Georgina97 · « **Reply #8 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:21:47 am »

Quote from: Mark2090 on November 29, 2020, 04:05:36 am

Is marrying a Korean woman difficult?
Hi, I am planning to move to korea soon , I will start a new business in Korea
I would like to get married in Korea and have a family , is it difficult to meet and marry a good Korean women and establish a family their?
I want to hear YOURS advices

tf kind of fetish thread is this. Can't find women where your fom? disgusting.

oglop · « **Reply #9 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:24:04 am »

Quote from: Georgina97 on November 30, 2020, 09:21:47 am

tf kind of fetish thread is this. Can't find women where your fom? disgusting.

yeah! i find it absolutely disgusting that anyone would want to marry someone not from their own village

D.L.Orean · « **Reply #10 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:35:03 am »

Quote from: oglop on November 30, 2020, 09:24:04 am

yeah! i find it absolutely disgusting that anyone would want to marry someone not from their own village

It seems like the OP is, currently, neither living in Korea nor in a relationship with a Korean woman. Some might find it odd that he would want to find a "good Korean woman" for marriage if he has no connections to the country

CO2 · « **Reply #11 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:38:58 am »

Meehhhhh, borderline weird.

The guy is coming here for the long term, it would seem. He's clearly single (one hopes, haha). Why wouldn't he be curious about the dating scene here?

We can all say "don't date exclusively one race!" but the fact is that most women in Korea are Korean. (SHOCKING!).

Granted, there are filters like age and language ability. The vast majority aren't going to speak English well enough to go into a relationship with a foreigner, but the fact is, the dating pool for a) foreigner women here and b) Koreans here are................ ........ similar? Obviously, I don't have statistics.

But again, do we really think he's gonna date South African girls? Why? He's opening a business here. Why would he date a Canadian or an Irish woman? So they can fukk off back home in a few years? So they can move to Vietnam and teach there? That's hardly desirable.

The guy is putting down roots here, at least for the medium term. He wants to find someone to date and start a family. He's not coming here for two years and trying to jump every local with a pulse.

So, yeah, on first glance, the post might seem a little weird or targeted but THINK ABOUT why they're coming. It makes sense to ask about Korean dating/marriage life if you're coming here long term and aren't that familiar with the society and norms.

Quote from: D.L.Orean on November 30, 2020, 09:35:03 am

It seems like the OP is, currently, neither living in Korea nor in a relationship with a Korean woman. Some might find it odd that he would want to find a "good Korean woman" for marriage if he has no connections to the country

Quote from: OP

Hi, I am planning to move to korea soon , I will start a new business in Korea

Wouldn't say that's NO connections........ .....

Georgina97 · « **Reply #12 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:52:48 am »

Quote from: D.L.Orean on November 30, 2020, 09:35:03 am

It seems like the OP is, currently, neither living in Korea nor in a relationship with a Korean woman. Some might find it odd that he would want to find a "good Korean woman" for marriage if he has no connections to the country

exactly! and why not just ask about the dating scene and not finding a "good Korean women"?? Also dumb question, obvious parameters like cultural and language differences the dating scene is the same as in other countries. If he wants to move here and set roots than okay date, fall in love, get married.

stoat · « **Reply #13 on:** November 30, 2020, 09:58:35 am »

Quote from: Georgina97 on November 30, 2020, 09:52:48 am

exactly! and why not just ask about the dating scene and not finding a "good Korean women"?? Also dumb question, obvious parameters like cultural and language differences the dating scene is the same as in other countries. If he wants to move here and set roots than okay date, fall in love, get married.

Yeah, dating in Saudi Arabia is the same as anywhere else. just a few language and cultural differences.

CO2 · « **Reply #14 on:** November 30, 2020, 10:03:02 am »

Quote from: Georgina97 on November 30, 2020, 09:52:48 am

obvious parameters like cultural and language differences the dating scene is the same as in other countries.

Re-read this sentence........... .............

Maybe you've been here a while and things are normal for you, but I do remember the weeks leading up to the flight here and thinking "WTF am I doing??"

Yes, the "shared humanity" ideal is noble and yes, we all want prosperity and time with our friends and family, we love a good meal etc. Humans are MORE alike than they are different, but that's not advice to live by on the micro-level, which would be personal interactions and intimate relationships.

Georgina97 · « **Reply #15 on:** November 30, 2020, 10:23:28 am »

Maybe they should've worded the question differently. If you say I'm moving to X country and want to marry X person. You either want to gain citizenship or you have a fetish. Because what should have been said is hey..i'm moving to X country and plan to make a life there. I hope to fall in love and get married. What is the dating scene like? You know like a NORMAL person

oglop · « **Reply #16 on:** November 30, 2020, 10:24:01 am »

Quote from: D.L.Orean on November 30, 2020, 09:35:03 am

It seems like the OP is, currently, neither living in Korea nor in a relationship with a Korean woman. Some might find it odd that he would want to find a "good Korean woman" for marriage if he has no connections to the country

meh, he's moving here to start a business, so probably long term. maybe slightly odd he chose to talk about marriage right off the bat, but whatever

not sure why georgina's got a stick up her arse about all this though

Quote from: Georgina97 on November 30, 2020, 10:23:28 am

\Because what should have been said is hey..i'm moving to X country and plan to make a life there. I hope to fall in love and get married. What is the dating scene like? You know like a NORMAL person

this is basically what he said but i chalked up his specific language usage to english being a second language

D.L.Orean · « **Reply #17 on:** November 30, 2020, 10:37:22 am »

Quote from: oglop on November 30, 2020, 10:24:01 am

meh, he's moving here to start a business, so probably long term. maybe slightly odd he chose to talk about marriage right off the bat, but whatever

not sure why georgina's got a stick up her arse about all this though

this is basically what he said but i chalked up his specific language usage to english being a second language

It could just be language issues. I wouldn't have gone in as hard as georgina

But the thread title and the way he worded it definitely had a hint of weirdness about it to me.

Georgina97 · « **Reply #18 on:** November 30, 2020, 10:42:18 am »

Quote from: D.L.Orean on November 30, 2020, 10:37:22 am

It could just be language issues. I wouldn't have gone in as hard as georgina But the thread title and the way he worded it definitely had a hint of weirdness about it to me.

If it's language issues then they should learn that it's weird and correct themselves in the future. Maybe I came off too much but as a women of color who had men fetish me for my ethnicity it is WEIRD and gross.

stoat · « **Reply #19 on:** November 30, 2020, 10:57:43 am »

Quote from: Georgina97 on November 30, 2020, 10:42:18 am

If it's language issues then they should learn that it's weird and correct themselves in the future. Maybe I came off too much but as a women of color who had men fetish me for my ethnicity it is WEIRD and gross.

Sorry but you're not special. Every white guy here has been through the same thing living in an Asian country.

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