What was the "I'm surprised DM hasn't arrived to" thing then? Stop playing dumb and just admit that you want DM to come in here and say some shit so you can have some circular pages-long argument with him.

Absolute nonsense, I am just surprised he hasn't come here yet, some people have made some sweeping claims and usually he responds to that. I have made no such claims so why would I get involved with his retorts?

The fact that I said I am surprised is not bait, the posts that make the claims are though, however, so I think you have the bull by the udder.

I normally wouldn't be annoyed but his constant lying and "whadda ya meeeean, bro? I was honestly just surprised" drives me up the wall. Like, dude, your intentions here are pretty obvious to everybody anyways, just own it.

It's hard to say just ignore it, but that's what you need to do. You have to do what is right for you.

I am in a similar position except my family would support anything I decide and my husband's family wants kids like now. But see my family cares that I've had two back surgeries and it might not be the best idea to have kids...plus they have grandkids through my sister.....and my husband said it was ok to not have kids but now ....well he constantly says we should have had a baby by the time we hit 9months married.....hearing that was hilarious

But besides that fact that I am not ready, not physically or mentally ready for it, my husband's family will butt in and tell me what to do and how to raise the kids ......I mean as I've stated in other threads I am not in the best relationship currently but my mother in law thinks she has the right to come stay at my house and see how I take care of the chores and cook etc...... I am an adult and no one is gonna tell me what to eat and that I need to jump up with so much excitement when my husband walks through the door.....nope not gonna happen because it's just not.....so do I want kids when I am not ready and when I know that people will nonstop tell me what to do and the husband will listen to his mother before he even considers my opinion on raising our kids.......fat chance. She even thinks that my husband wants to go work in another city because of me but he is just hating his job......can't say I'm sad about the possibility of him going

Anyway, to sum up....I am currently in a situation that makes me quite unhappy because I believe (now) that I rushed into it. My family would say things like when are you gonna get married but they were joking and just wanted me to come home....then I found someone and thought he was the perfect match...and he was before we got married....now he wants me to practically be Korean, speak Korean and never English (he is fluent in English), never have a different opinion, always do things his way, tutor his brother's kids every week for free, help his mom, never spend money (even though I pay all of the bills), deal with his hoarding, his badmouthing my country and so on......so don't rush it.....take your time. If you want kids, be mindful of keeping your health and fitness up, but don't rush into anything. It will hurt your health and happiness in the long run if you don't find a good match and have things worked out on how to raise kids and other important issues. Also, it's not only your health and happiness, but the future kids.....

Guess it's a bait and switch.  Tell them all to change their attitudes and remind them you're not Korean.  Tell them to smarten up or you're going to check out.  Try to save money and get him to pay more bills.  Saving money in case you need out.  Best of luck.  Ultimatum to divorce.

I feel sad for the OP. You can't predict the future but I'd place my bet on the fact the husband is not going to change.

A bit of a nitpick but for clarity's sake nightninja isn't the OP

Thanks for the clarification. My mistake.

Reminder and don't watch any of their other videos.  I watched one and almost felt like shooting myself and feel stupider for having watched one.  But the few nuggets you can pick out from above can give some insight for women I guess.  Just ignore the skanky stuff.

And I never rarely watch these kinds of videos.  I usually watch more informative stuff.  Anyways.  (I am almost hiding my head in shame sharing something so lame.)

Maybe this video is better suited than the ones above for the women? Also insight for guys, I guess?  (Not sure why this crap is coming up in my feeds and why I have watched them.  Yick!)

www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3dmQAVCH_E

Maybe this video is better suited than the ones above for the women? Also insight for guys, I guess?  (Not sure why this crap is coming up in my feeds and why I have watched them.  Yick!)

www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3dmQAVCH_E

Yeah, didn't watch this whole thing through because from what little I did watch, she's not very accurate. xD She talks about the standard dating practices in Korea that people like to idealize as well as some of the cultural reasoning behind those ideals, but those rules only seem to apply when Koreans date other Koreans, and even then only when there's some accountability involved. It's not the same experience for foreign women at all, and she also doesn't talk about how a lot of Koreans try to get around these dating rules.

Her first point about Korean guys not trying to have sex with women before they're officially an item, for example. Hella not true.   And the ones who do try to follow this rule? They'll often try to get women to agree to be their girlfriends like on the very first ****** date JUST so that they can have sex, lmao. Especially if the women are foreign (i.e. not Korean passing). Then they'll ghost them after a few days to a few weeks.

The video is a nice attempt to educate others about cultural viewpoints, but it's incredibly naive and is coming from a perspective where there's probably a lot of accountability (have some or were introduced by mutual friends, family, etc.). Maybe she goes more in depth later, but 17 minutes is just too long for me.

Hello all! Is anyone getting pressures from their parents to go ahead and start having a “family” or “children”?  Any one can answer but as a woman I would like to hear from women as well. I’m currently 32. I have been accepted to teach in S.K.  for many years but turned it down. I was accepted to come in Spring 2021. I know a lot about the biological clock but many women have healthy children in their late 30s. Yes the chance of a child having health issues increase but the last time I checked there were some women in their 20s having children who had Down syndrome, autism etc. It depends and varies. I almost had a nervous breakdown due to “I want some grand children”, your “biological clock is ticking” etc. yes I’m an only child. Of course I want everything my parents give to me to go to my children (whenever I have them). I still think I’m young/of age to pursue this opportunity for a year or two. Advice? Thoughts?

At 32, I think that it would be a good idea for you to try this out for a year or two, since you have wanted to try it, and also to not have any regrets later on in your life for missing out on the experience. However, just keep in mind that the wages for this job have not increased for the past 15 years, and the salary, while still doable, is not that great anymore. In 2007 ~ 2008, Korean bus drivers made the same wage as beginning EPIK teachers. Now, the make  approx 1,000 USD more than us, and some of the factory jobs that migrant workers from central Asia, Thailand, and the Philippines ect have started to surpass EPIK teachers as well.
This opportunity is best suited for fresh out of university 21~ year old grads who want to take a gap year(s) before going on to graduate school and save up a bit of money, travel around across asian, just go wild on weekends.
Also, this position is not exactly one of a teacher, but more of a language assistant. We are more of "edutainers" than educators. The native English teachers class is required to be "fun" and "games" with prizes like stickers and candy. With that being said, your co-teachers may be fantastic individuals who love to interact with a foreigner, or really difficult, ignorant people. Your tasks can also vary wildly from doing meaningful activities where you co-plan engaging lessons with your teachers, or just being used as a tape recorded to repeat some words here and there, while the Korean teachers take over most of the class. Outside from EPIK, things are worse, as Korea has terrible ageism, and older women in their 30's tend to start get discriminated against when it comes to job offers. 

I don't know how familiar you are with Korean language, culture, society... but while Korean is extremely developed economically.. socially it still far from the Western standard... though slowly getting there. For example, (Ageism/ sexism/ racism here is not considered a crime like it is in the West when it comes to employment.)

If you do choose to come here, I would recommend that you have a strong exit plan prepared. (A 38 year old American woman quit her job and gave up her nice apartment back home to come do this for and while she enjoyed the opportunity to travel around for a year, did not renew for a 2nd year because she found her workplace unprofessional (compared to Western standards), the language was too difficult and the culture was too different).
If you are already a trained teacher back home with quite a bit of work experience, I do no recommend quitting your job for this, but instead maybe using your summer holidays to take an extended trip here.
Overall, this would be a good short term experience but don't plan on making a long- career out of this, unless you are a qualified teacher back home and can apply to an international school here, where you experience would transfer over when you retuned home.

Good luck with everything!
If you choose to accept the offer I hope you get into a good work place!
Also feel free to PM me.