Hello all! Is anyone getting pressures from their parents to go ahead and start having a “family” or “children”?  Any one can answer but as a woman I would like to hear from women as well. I’m currently 32. I have been accepted to teach in S.K.  for many years but turned it down. I was accepted to come in Spring 2021. I know a lot about the biological clock but many women have healthy children in their late 30s. Yes the chance of a child having health issues increase but the last time I checked there were some women in their 20s having children who had Down syndrome, autism etc. It depends and varies. I almost had a nervous breakdown due to “I want some grand children”, your “biological clock is ticking” etc. yes I’m an only child. Of course I want everything my parents give to me to go to my children (whenever I have them). I still think I’m young/of age to pursue this opportunity for a year or two. Advice? Thoughts?

Hello all! Is anyone getting pressures from their parents to go ahead and start having a “family” or “children”?  Any one can answer but as a woman I would like to hear from women as well. I’m currently 32. I have been accepted to teach in S.K.  for many years but turned it down. I was accepted to come in Spring 2021. I know a lot about the biological clock but many women have healthy children in their late 30s. Yes the chance of a child having health issues increase but the last time I checked there were some women in their 20s having children who had Down syndrome, autism etc. It depends and varies. I almost had a nervous breakdown due to “I want some grand children”, your “biological clock is ticking” etc. yes I’m an only child. Of course I want everything my parents give to me to go to my children (whenever I have them). I still think I’m young/of age to pursue this opportunity for a year or two. Advice? Thoughts?

Isn't it your life? 

I notice you joined this board in 2013.  So you're thinking about returning?

I never had kids. I have never wanted kids. It was something clearly decided in my mind when I was about 8 years old.

Having said that:

A) Do you want kids?

B) If yes, why?

C) If no, tell your parents to adopt if they want to take care of a baby.

My parents were cool. They told me to be free. Have money. Travel. Enjoy life. Have free time. Do what you want when you want. Go where you want when you want. You know, all the things people with kids can't do.

You indicated it was for a year or two, your parents can wait, seriously. I have seen so much heartbreak caused by parents trying to live vicariously through their children, it is sad.

You are your own person, make your own decisions about if and when you will get married, have kids, where you want to live, travel, etc.

Don't let ANYONE cause you to have a nervous breakdown because of what they want. Just go for it, enjoy your life. Ignoring their wishes, does not mean you don't love them, it just means your are an individual living YOUR life as you want to.

My parents were cool. They told me to be free. Have money. Travel. Enjoy life. Have free time. Do what you want when you want. Go where you want when you want. You know, all the things people with kids can't do.

So, they regretted having you?

So, they regretted having you?

How in the name of all the gods in all the heavens in the multi-verse did you come to that conclusion. Other than pure stupidity, of course.

That is now the dumbest thing I have read here. Thank you. 

How in the name of all the gods in all the heavens in the multi-verse did you come to that conclusion. Other than pure stupidity, of course.

That is now the dumbest thing I have read here. Thank you. 

It was an attempt at humour. Sorry.

Seriously, though, I would not encourage nor discourage my kids from having children.

Encorage: seen as nagging.
Discourage: leads them to think they were resented.


 I do, however, support them in thier decisions.

A 32-year-old woman who wants a bun in the oven should certainly consider teaching in South Korea. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. Take your pick. There will be countless/hapless suitors.

What is wrong with you? Were you drunk and bitter this weekend?  Report yourself to a mod. 

This post seems like a troll but..
My mum has always wanted grandkids, however, I've never wanted children and am not good at even being in a relationship.
Eventually my mum called me a lost cause, since I don't even try to date haha.